stupidhuman-shitforbrains said: Can you explain more about why you're against spanking? I agree, I'd just like to hear what you have to say.

j0ye:

  • it is hurting someone
  • your child, specifically, who should not be hurt by you of all people
  • it doesnt work in the long term
  • it develops trust issues
  • it is reliant on fear, and teaches them to be afraid instead of actually learning what they did and how to self-discipline (i.e., “mommy spanked me when i tried crossing the road by myself, so i shouldn’t do it in front of her so i don’t get spanked” instead of “mommy told me i could get hurt if i cross the road by myself, so i won’t do it”)
  • it asserts the ideology of stronger = right, and that because someone hurts you they are correct
  • it shows that violence solves issues, which causes your child not only to normalize violence, but to partake in it
  • it disregards bodily autonomy (as in people not touching you without your consent)
  • it hurts their self-esteem, as well as affects their mental health, and their intelligence
  • it becomes a gateway to harsher abuse due to desensitization
  • it creates detachment of the parent/child bond
  • it normalizes degrading and harmful behavior on the parent’s end
  • it continues on the cycle of abuse
  • it’s just overall shitty don’t hit someone, especially not someone who is smaller than you, defenseless, and VERY easily affected by it ok just don’t